Lucia (Taruvi) - Chapter 86

About the question: “What kind of husband/lover/boyfriend/girlfriend does something like this?”

Either someone in a relationship that has established that this is something they like and want from each other, and then it is perfectly ok and no problem at all so long as they stop at the moment the other one tells them to stop or seem uncomfortable.

Or

Someone who does this without knowing if the other one would like to be treated this way or not, which would make this kind of action very problematic. It might go well and the other person would find it to be ok, or it might lead to the other person have huge problems for years to come. Very many, women and men, have experienced not being able to sleep well nor being able to relax after this happening to them. It does not matter if it was a lover or a stranger, their security is gone as their body and mind feel violented in a situation where they were not able to tell the other to stop.

So, never, ever do something like this is you are not a 100 % sure the other person will want something like this to happen. You might, without wanting to, destroy someone elses life and make them resent you. Also, i many countries this might give you a problem as it is deemed to be rape in the laws of that country. It does not matter what your relationship is, married or not.

But first and foremost, do not do it as it might lead to such misery and hardship for the other person. Please.

And of you did not know before reading this, now you know. And yes, women who reads this, that is also the situation for you, you might end up being a rapist for thinking that every man would love to wake up while someone is using their body, as that was is how it is often portrayed. Many traumatized men will tell you otherwise if they use their voice. Because the the stigma of male victims is still so prominent most sadly do not talk about it, but carry the burden themselves, sometimes until death.